But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared.
When you really apologize, you should feel good about yourself. An effective apology is, as Lazare puts it, “an act of honesty, an act of humility, an act of commitment, an act of generosity, and an act of courage.”
But there’s no guarantee that the other person involved will share your warm fuzzies. The final gallant act of apology is to release your former victim from any expectation of forgiveness. No matter how noble you have been, he will forgive—or refuse to forgive—on his own terms. That is his right.
But how you react is locked down by the decision you have made. Even if that person does not forgive you, you have to act back to normal again and not hold any more grudges or bitterness against them.
“Lord, help me to seek forgiveness from those I’ve done wrong. Teach me to humble myself and ask for their forgiveness just like You have forgiven me. Release me from any bitterness and pain from the past and release me into freedom that can come from restoration. In Your Name I pray, Amen.”
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